FAQ
- What if I don't know what my dreams or desires are?
- How do you do it?
- How have people benefited?
- What about you connects you to this work?
- Would this make a good gift?
- So what do you do – really?
1. What if I don’t know what my dreams or desires are?
Sometimes questions are more important than the answers.” —Nancy Willard
That’s the perfect time for an LQM workshop or coaching. This work helps people see what they can not see on their own. In a way, it serves as a mirror. It’s not uncommon for people to think, “I’m not ready for a coach, I don’t even know what my dreams or desired results are.” However, thinking that you need to have all the answers before experiencing coaching is a bit like cleaning your house before the housekeeper arrives. It’s not that a coach has all the answers; it’s that the coach has the gift of perspective. You can’t see what is in your eye from the inside; you need to look in a mirror to get an external perspective. Coaching very much serves as that mirror regarding life and living. Consider that the best athletes in the world have coaches not because the coach is better then the athlete, but because, from the outside, the coach can see things the athlete can’t see and help them refine and polish their game in ways they can’t do on their own. That’s what I do for clients in life, instead of sport.
2. How do you do it?
In short, there are four general steps or processes:
Increase Awareness – Quite simply; we do not know what we do not know. One of my favorite sayings is, if you do not know where you are, you can not get where you are going. So increasing awareness has a lot to do with consciousness, figuring out the “You are here” place on your LifeQuest Map™.
Define your Focus or Desire – This is the “where you are going” part of journey. This step is about being crystal clear on what the desire is and sometimes it can be one of the most challenging parts of the journey.
Design the Alliance – Not everyone learns the same way, and it is important for a coach to meet the client where they are before trying to inspire them to a new place. Together we will design the coaching relationship and build a structure that both meets the needs of the client, as well as stretches them into their future. It’s not about “playing it safe” it’s about “playing to win!”
Map the Plan – Think of this as the “TripTix” on the roadmap of life. It’s the plan for achieving the desired result.
3. How have people benefited?
The benefits have been the achievement of the client’s desired result. I have had clients go back to school when they thought they couldn’t afford it or manage it in their life; I have had clients turn frustrating jobs into places of opportunity that actually fulfill their life purpose rather than ignore it. People have re-discovered themselves, found their life mate, altered career paths for the better and found their passion and focus… In short, the common thread among all my clients is that they took control of their life in such a way that they were able to accomplish things they previously thought was beyond their reach or ability. They break the bonds of limited thinking and the obstacles that stand in their way and begin dreaming what is possible about their desires.
4. What about you connects you to this work?
When I graduated from college I had an emotional breakdown. All through college I was convinced I was going to “fix the world!” I was in route to be President of the United States, or so I thought. But once the reality of graduation set in and I realized that I had to actually find a job and chase the dream, I suddenly didn’t know how. I was scared and confused and although my parents were quite supportive, they didn’t have a clue as to how to help me. I didn’t need therapy, but I was completely lost. As a result, I did what most people do. I got a job; a job that feed my belly, but not my soul.
Our educational system does a phenomenal job of teaching students about subjects, what we fail to teach them about is life; how do you dream and chase those dreams responsibly? What do you do when the perfect job turns out to be not so perfect? How do you manage transition, which occurs continually throughout your life? Eleanor Roosevelt said that “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” I would like to add “the power” of their dreams and inspire people to live lives that feed their souls instead of simply holding down a job. I believe that life isn’t about making ends meet; it’s about plugging the ends together and then turning up the power and lighting up their world. I want to help people experience their life that way!
5. Would this make a good gift?
Yes, it’s a great gift for anyone searching for direction, purpose, clarity or empowerment, such as graduates, retirees, empty nesters or anyone facing change, transition or feeling like they have reached a dead-end.
6. So what do you do – really?
I change the world – every day – by inspiring people to change the way they think about their possibilities and the possibilities of those around them. In short, I promote Global Happiness.