Can You Hear What’s In Your Heart This Christmas?
Merry Christmas!May your days be joyful, playful and bright, and no matter what this season throws at you: lead with your heart and all it holds.Speaking of the heart, have you ever noticed that embedded in the word “Heart” are a bunch of other...
What Role Do You Want Me To Play?
What role do you want me to play? When I began coaching, I had to resist the urge to coach every conversation. So my wife and I made a pact: if it wasn’t abundantly clear (and I’m male, so most times it wasn’t) I would ask, “Which role would you like me to...
The Problem With Accountability
In truth, January 1 is no different than any other day of the year. And yet, it holds a remarkable power for fresh starts and cleansing. Many of us dare to dream, seeing the New Year as a blank slate upon which we can write the story of our life. Whether we believe...
Change Is Easy
Change is easy, right? Ok, you go first! I love that line because, as we all know, we always feel like it’s the other person who needs to change first. You don’t trust that they will change, too, if you go first, so you want them to go first so you can j̶u̶d̶g̶e̶ I...
With All Due Respect To NIKE
Are you running from something? Or towards something? Too often we’re running away, trying to escape — but our problems keep following us! Like that person who goes from one bad relationship to another with no loss of emotion, or those that seem to have terrible job...
Adding a Child Won’t Fix It
Have you ever heard one of those heartbreaking stories where a couple struggling with their relationship suddenly decides to have children — thinking it will bring them closer together? How often does that work out well? Yeah — it’s a terrible strategy that virtually...
Would You Be Crazy To Say ‘No?’
A client of mine has been offered a position with a company that would nearly triple his already six figure income. And on the surface, who wouldn’t want that? It’s a LOT of money. The problem is, he’d have to move to a city he doesn’t want to live in, doing work...
Tools Don’t Build Masterpieces, People Do… With Tools
I seem to be on a CVI kick, so let’s go back to my comment a couple weeks ago about the CVI being a tool. I recently asked a group what they thought of the CVI. The first person to respond said, “I think it’s crap, a waste of our time.” “Wholesale & completely?”...
A Core Values Leadership Case Study
Let’s dive into the CVI a little bit more. Here’s a case study in the CVI: Take a leader who’s a Merchant/Builder, which simply means their highest value is relationship and making deep, honest connections with people; and their secondary value is the confidence that...
The Questions Are SO Often Better Than The Answers
We talked about the posture of learning last week, and some of the conversations I have been having around that theme is about asking a better question, and how one does that in real time. Let me go back to my favorite assessment tool, the CVI, for some insights....
