People Who Enhance Us
I’m not walking around with just my left or my right side -- or just my front without my back. So I don't believe our spouse 'completes' us. I've never believed that. We are, each of us, whole, complete people, so another person 'completing' us just doesn't make sense...
No, It Doesn’t Happen By Accident
Some things just happen by accident. We discover an amazing recipe, a back way for our commute to work, or meet a new friend. They can't be planned, and when they happen, it feels like magic! Most people seem to think that work culture is one of those happy accidents....
Life Is Not Zero Sum
“Have you ever noticed that anybody driving slower than you is an idiot, and anyone going faster than you is a maniac?” - George Carlin Why do we so often treat life like a zero-sum game... …that any win you get is a loss for me? If you're right, I must be wrong,...
I Couldn’t Face My Contract
Just because it’s obvious to you, doesn’t mean it’s obvious to them. This could be true professionally, personally or otherwise (is there an otherwise?). What seems so obvious from the outside can be invisible from the inside. Here’s an example. Remember the course I...
Did You Ask How It Works?
When I first heard about coaching, my impression of it (as I mentioned last week) was that it was a bit of an inbred profession — coaches coaching coaches and people who wanted to be coaches. I struggled to find people who were effectively doing it in the real world...
A Shift In Perspective
I know I reference my coaching clients a lot in these blog posts, but for those of you who haven't experienced it, you might be feeling a little skeptical. And I get it. When I first explored coaching it felt very incestuous - coaches always coaching coaches and...
How To Nail Your Next Interview
I hate to be the bearer of bad news (actually I don’t, I love being there bearer of this news), but they cannot, will not connect the dots. And at the risk of sounding like Dr. Seuss; They cannot, will not, connect the dots! They will not connect them, not one not...
The Question We All Need To Ask Ourselves
Last week we talked about how great leadership is most often noticed through how people treat us and make us feel. You may recall that great leaders make us feel safe, respected, empowered, forgiven, appreciated, honored. But what I left out of last week’s story is...
Leadership is Showing UP
It's interesting to note that when I ask people to think about great leadership, they don’t tend to think about traditional/famous leaders. We tend to think about those who led us. Just the other night, I was speaking at an event and I asked the group, “Can you name a...
How To Find Your Motivation
“I’m having a hard time staying motivated!” “I lack the energy.” “Ughhh.” Sound familiar? It’s quite the common refrain of folks who seek out coaching. When we hate our job, or feel lost or out of control, it’s motivation (or the lack thereof) that’s often to blame....
